john holst

I found this book by looking for a list of books about long-term relationships and making them work. This was a very good read, not so much for relationships exactly but a way to frame your own thinking and life to get the most happiness out of it. She repeats throughout the book that you cannot control other people but you can control yourself. Making yourself happy makes the people around you happy.

Would highly recommend.

I'll be honest. Consider Plebias was kind of a slog in the back half to get through. But my God the universe Banks created was just too interesting to not keep going. As for this book the player of games this was much much smoother going down. It was a really detailed look at the actual culture and how it deals with other civilizations. I really enjoyed this book. So much I got the third in the series right away. I can only hope it's more player of games ish and less consider Plebias ish.