The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
Ratings57
Average rating4.3
***A NEW YORK TIMES BESTELLER*** An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all. The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal. Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm. Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible. And Emily Nagoski can prove it.
Prompt
29 booksReviews with the most likes.
While it is a book on sex, it just as much a book on psychology and the human experience. It seems to be written for women but since so much of the book is about introspection I would recommend it to any man, or non-binary identify person. If I ever have kids this book would also be the centrepiece of a conversation around sexual expression.
More books like this please! It's great that it exists & more people should read ut. What it's saying should not be revolutionary but unfortunately for many, it will. Many readers will find reassurance & information that should have been accessible to them a long time ago. As far as self-help books go, it does use legit research & contains some useful exercises! Therapists should read it!