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A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life. For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart. That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.
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3.5 stars. I think this book is worth reading, particularly if you did not have access to comprehensive sex education when you were younger or if you have questions about how your body works. As someone who did have access to sex ed, I still learned some things from it (the first time I read it, which was several years ago).
summary: your body is normal and your sexual experience is normal (if painless) <3
I really appreciate how much information this book offers you, even when plenty of it I couldn't apply to myself. It was interesting to learn about it all, and it was more than just a book about how to be happy and comfortable with sex. This touched on so many different aspects like body image, self esteem, trust, patience, and outside influences as well as inside influences. It is very obvious by the end of the book that being comfortable with sex or your sexuality runs deep in many areas of your life.
The garden metaphor was a really helpful visual, as were some of the others. Because it's so packed with different life avenues, I definitely feel like I'll have to reread this book multiple times to have everything really sink in and not just forget about it in a week. It gave me lots of things to try out in and out of bed, as well as even more reading material to go through by other people. The only thing that sometimes made it hard for me to get through was the way it was presented, the "voice" of the narration. It felt like it was trying a little too hard to be relatable or for non-science-y people to understand.