How to Enjoy your life and your job

there are definitely some really good tips in here: remember and use people's first names, don't be conservative with giving compliments, show interest in what other people are interested in, etc

but, as you might expect from reading the title, a lot of this book comes off as “How to Manipulate People 101”, which sort of left a bad taste in my mouth

How to win friends and influence people is a must-read book for every human whether he is enjoying social activities or not. It teaches you to have a better quality conversation with the person in front of you and helps you see the communication in another aspect.

In the book, you can find some basic concepts which you've never thought about individually like smiling more or having a genuine interest in the people's passion. Having in mind many of these things, I developed my existing relationships and made new ones faster and more insightful than before.

One of the measures of how valuable is an experience is to count the ways in which it changed you, or at least whether you learned something new after the event. I learned several new bits of wisdom from this book. At some point I even realized how wrong I have done things in the past. It turns out, relationships are a huge part of our lives and it is worth to learn how to build meaningful ones (relationship wise). The lessons have been listened to and read. Next step is to adapt them as a series of habits in my daily life.

I can understand why Mr. Carnegie's work has stood the test of time. Simple precepts are presented and then reinforced with multiple examples of application from people who the author knows or met through his courses where said precepts are taught. The prose is simple and accessible, even chatty in tone. Everybody should read this, imho.

It's hard to rate this right after reading it. No way of knowing whether the advice given will improve one's interpersonal behavior until some time has passed. I may be coming back to adjust this rating. The hardest part of this is keeping the principles in mind day to day, when not reading the book.

At first, I thought about how trivial the principles were, which explains why it is part of the high school curriculum in some places. Then, I appreciated the low-key language and practical examples used as the principles were easy to grasp.
Also, I find that many of the principles are now common sense in our day and age. The latter is understandable as the book belongs to a different era. I learned a thing or two—tremendous and easy-to-read text.

Grundsätzlich gute Ansätze, fand es in konkreten Beispielen etwas veraltet. Aber falls ich jemals einen Großindustriellen Magneten aus den 20ern überzeugen muss, dann werde dieses Buch noch einmal vorher lesen!!!!1111

... Im letzten Kapitel wird ein Junge, der mit Heißem Eisen andere Kinder bedroht, als Positiv Beispiel gelobt.
#weissIchNicht

What can I say this book totally justifies its title ‘How To Win Friends and Influence People'. I mean this book is around 300 pages, 4 parts and 30 chapters and I can guarantee you, you can learn something important from each chapters. This book is for those who don't know what to and when to talk to people, including me. Anyways I can totally say that this book when it was published was way ahead of its time, this book is totally suitable for this generation and also works for next generation as well because this world is very much dominated by person who know how to talk to people.

And the writing style omg, it was just amazing, the way Dale Carnegie write some aspects was just flawless, it was like he himself narrating all the stories and his experience. There is nothing negative in this book if I pinpoint, only one negative point I can think of is some middle chapters were rushed quickly and not elaborated efficiently but that doesn't bother anyone.

So my final words would be read it just read it even if you are extrovert, ambivert or introvert give this book a try and you will be surprised that how much you need this book.

Chore to read!

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” is a 1936 book written by Dale Carnegie. Over 30 million copies have been sold worldwide, making it one of the best-selling books of all time.

However, after reading It I found myself somewhat disappointed.

Dr. Carnegie is a specialist in sales-manship but it reflects poorly on his writing style. For instance he names his chapters bizarre titles such as “Do This and You'll be Welcome Anywhere” or “If you Don't do this You're Heading for Trouble”. this writing style carries on throughout the book.

I recommend “Just Listen” by Dr. Mark Goulston, as the book conveys the same ideas better.

Pretty okay. This was originally recommended to me during college, to help deal with my shyness. I never finished it but still had my copy so decided to re-read it.

There's a lot of solid advice in here about how to deal with people, most of which comes down to “be nice,” but then explains how to do that. It's easy to think you're a nice person, but it's another thing to actually be shown a way to do it. It's also easy to be an ass, so a reminder now and then of how not to be an ass is good. And there are lists at the end of each major section of the important take-aways from each chapter.

That said, it's really framed more toward business conversations (though can help for every day stuff as well), and some of the examples are outrageous. There's one where a guy compliments an old woman's wallpaper, so she gifts him her car. Whether or not this actually happened, this book could have really done better to remove a lot of the really ridiculous examples - especially since there are so many. Some of the historical facts seem odd as well, and he talks positively about robber barons. So... don't get too hung up on all these, this is an old book. The examples aren't the important part.

If you're shy and awkward at conversation, this can give you an idea of what to say as a “I'm totally a normal talking human being and not a robot” sort of response. I've also recommended this to people who very clearly didn't know how to get their point across without resulting to insults right away.

Kind of a ridiculous book. There are one or two good notes, like pointing out how people often offer rewards they themselves would enjoy without considering the other party.

But besides that, it's absurd: there's a serious anti-intellectual bent combined with crazy culture (offering suggestions of what to do at “the club”). Science and studies cited are loose, with guesstimated statistics. Although the observations about human nature - brutal realism of people as plastic, self-centered, and fragile creatures - are usually valid, their portrayal here make the follower of directions act without allowing people to rise above these expectations.