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“People hold the beliefs they do because of the way they think and they think the way they do because of the nature of the societies they live in.”
I've spent most of my life at the intersection of Eastern and Western cultures. When I stumbled upon this book, it made me wonder where I stood. Would my way of thinking match up with one side or the other?
One of the book's main points is that Eastern cultures value interdependence over independence; that is, people are seen as part of a group. Western cultures, on the other hand, are more individualistic; success is measured by personal achievement.
Coincidentally, not long after I finished the book, I had a conversation with my grandma that perfectly illustrates this point. We were talking about work, and I mentioned how my company might be moving offices soon. My Cantonese language skills aren't the best, so sometimes there's miscommunication when I speak to my grandma; she thought I had said that I was changing jobs. When I cleared up the misunderstanding, she seemed relieved.
She said that it's not right to change jobs, because you've formed attachments to the people there and it would be hard to leave. This is not something that I'm used to hearing; often, I get advice that changing jobs will help you get ahead and will be good for your career. I might have been confused by my grandma's words, but seen in the light of what I had just read in the book, it made perfect sense.
For her, work is about being part of a group, one that is not easy to separate yourself from. According to Nisbett, this is classic Eastern philosophy. The opposing viewpoint—that changing jobs is a positive move—is more in line with Western thought because it encourages individual growth.
I wasn't aware that this was a cultural difference, but I know that whenever I imagine myself changing jobs, I always feel conflicted about the idea. On the one hand, there is a sense of guilt that I would be abandoning my team and letting them down. On the other hand, I tell myself that it's a case of misplaced loyalty: it's not personal, it's just business.
I think these two parts of my thought process directly correspond to East and West. Having been exposed to both sides for most of my life, I'm not always aware of where that line is. Now that I've read this book, I think I'll be better able to understand where my instincts come from, and be better able to choose from the best of both worlds.