The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
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Average rating3.6
The author writes as though he has created a groundbreaking new philosophy while just rehashing the works and stories of others. It's clear that he has lived quite a privileged life and doesn't understand why the average person might give a fuck about things such as their income or just not being an asshole to those they care about. While I generally agree that many people give too many fucks in life if his examples of the things he stopped giving a fuck about are true then the author could do with giving a few more fucks.
Not bad; not great. I did chuckle out loud a few times. Advice solid but predictable. Every teenager should read it.
In Chapter One alone, 106 f*cks were given. Fortunately the rest of the book is more reasonable.
Mark talks a lot about entitlement and taking responsibility; lessons he's personally acquainted with. Hard truths in quotable format. I think the reviewer who called this dressed up Buddhism nailed it.
I'd suggest reading a few of his blog posts first. You'll know really quick if you want to read a whole book of them.
I got a few chuckles about it and it started some conversation with my husband. Some of it makes sense, and I get the importance of different language, although I don't think I can recommend this to a lot of clients. I liked his line of “Who you are is what you're willing to struggle for” and the idea of choosing our problems, not our goals. Some of the latter of the book didn't seem as impactful to me, and I think I got a little hung up about his loose or lack of definition of values (I see values and priorities a little different, defining ‘values' is sometimes important).
I think the only way to tell you about this book is to share some of my favorite bits of wisdom from Mark Manson.
1. Happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems. Who you are is defined by what you're willing to struggle for.
2. There is no such thing as a personal problem. If you have a problem, chances are someone else has it too.
3. Certainty is the enemy of growth. Nothing is certain until it happens and even then, it's debatable.
4. Don't just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.
5. Sometimes you think you want something but it turns out you don't.
6. We don't actually know what a positive or negative experience is.
Mark Manson had worked so hard on turning this barely-a-blog-post amount of useful material into a book that you can still smell the sweat, even five years later.
The main takeaways are that the author us had copious amounts of meaningless sex, all around the world, and that he prefers Russian rudeness to the fake American niceties? I'm not sure.
As others had said, there are some casual misogyny and homophobia, just for good measure.
In my opinion, the vulgar language was used in the title and in some chapters primarily as an attention getting device. Author doesn't want you to care about nothing, just be mindful and selective about what you do care about.
I picked up the book from my library on a whim. Wish I hadn't. Like all self-help books that I've encountered, they take a lot of time to expound on philosophies that are obvious.
I struggled with completing this book. It sounds like a self-help book for rich kids. The author uses his own life experiences to make sweeping statements. I found it difficult to concentrate on what he was saying. The little bit of concentration that I could manage only showed that he was just rehashing old ideas with a lot of expletives (which got on my nerves) and without any really meaningful examples. This made it really hard for me to connect with this book. I'd never recommend it to anyone interested in reading self-help. If you want to read a self-help book, please do not waste your precious time reading this book. Go read [b:The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change 36072 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Powerful Lessons in Personal Change Stephen R. Covey https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1421842784s/36072.jpg 6277] by Stephen Covey instead!
Este libro no es un libro de auto-ayuda, asi está catalogado en muchos lugares y librerías.
Este libro es una colección de historias personales, historias inventadas, experiencias, epifanías y sentido común (a veces no tan común) metidas en una juguera, mezcladas y luego vertidas en forma de libro, con algo de orden.
Sin embargo, groserías aparte, fucks aparte, no deja de tener mucho sentido en muchos aspectos.
No es una obra maestra, ni tampoco una que nos deje con una sensación de “¡he abierto los ojos!”. Pero sin duda nos recuerda algunas cosas esenciales, que muchas veces dejamos de considerar mientras estamos sumergidos en la vorágine de la vida.
“No eres especial”, “escoge tus batallas (fucks)”, culpa no es lo mismo que responsabilidad, una definición muy particular (y no por eso menos válida) de lo que es el verdadero amor, la muerte como un valor y no como algo de lo que hay que escapar, etc. son cosas que, al menos a mi, me dejaron pensando bastante rato. A veces de acuerdo y otras veces no. Pero pensando al fin...
No voy a ser tan cínico, como algunos revisores de aquí que dicen que este libro está lleno de mierda. Hay que ser muy arrogante, poco humilde y “entitled” (como no se cansa de repetir el autor en el libro) para no encontrarle valor a las cosas (aunque no nos gusten).
Me quedo con esta cita:
“You too are going to die, and that's because you too were fortunate enough to have lived.”
The book states nothing that you wouldn't know , but the way it is written and how entertaining it is, makes it so readable even by casual reader as i am. it can give you perspective regarding a lot of cases and problems you face it on social level or personal level
A great book that I think that everyone needs to read. The main idea within this book is so important to enjoy life fully, and it explains something that can be hard to come to on your own.
Not a bad book but I didn't find anything ground-breaking either. Everything here has been said before and others have done it better. The difference with this book is the use of profanity throughout which, although I don't object to by any means, does seem to be used more for the shock element than anything else. After all, how many people can say they have sold a book with the work Fuck on its cover?
Ok, alle hatte Recht, dieses Buch war großartig. Fürchte mein Textmarker ist jetzt leer.
The hype that surrounded this book made me a bit skeptical at first yet curious as to why. While I wouldn't call this book life-changing, it definitely provides more perspective onto aspects that we often don't consider or think about as much as we should perhaps. A reminder of sorts I would say... perspectives that won't necessarily convince every reader's mind yet opens up a bit of an introspective thought process.
It was okay, but I wouldn't call it groundbreaking.
The book is entertaining and uses some rather flashy language (as can be seen by the title) and while it isn't without merit, I found it shallow and at times contradictory.
Still, if you are feeling lost and looking for a read to borrow some good mood from, this might be it, as long you don't expect a clear and practical step-by-step strategy to deal with your issues.
This was honestly a view changing read for me!!!!!!!!! HIGHLY recommend for anyone and everyone struggling with anxiety, depression, stress, or, well, just life really!!!!!!!!!!
Hilarious at first but the charm and humor stop about a quarter in, and then the book becomes more of a self-help book which the author had previously admonished. Good advice speckled throughout and I can see this being a good book to reference every now and then to ground someone. I disagree with the parting message around “leaving a legacy” but agree with the sentiment of trying to leave the world better off than before.
I am a very self-conscious person. To a fault. I constantly question everything I say or do (usually after they've been said or done) and agonize over it, worrying about what other people think or thought of me. All the time.
In short, I give too many fucks.
This is not a life-changing book. I don't think any book truly is. But sometimes you just need someone to tell you something in a certain way to make you look at things from a different perspective, and that's what this did for me.
In the first few chapters he talks about the general principles of the book. Life is a problem to solve. Failure makes us better. Confrontations are better not to avoid. You are responsible for yourself. Choose good values. Decide what to give a fuck about. Those are some of the things I've already tried putting to use at work. Will I keep being able to do that in other aspects of my life for the foreseeable future? Maybe, maybe not, but this book has planted the seed already, and it's up to me what I do with it.
It's clear that Mark is a very experienced person in life, and I loved some of the stories and anecdotes he told. It was a way of seeing how the tips he talked about could work out in real life. It also never made the book feel boring or hard to get through. Quite the opposite!
On a last note: if you have the option, get the audiobook. The narration by Roger Wayne is absolutely excellent and just made it all the better.
I couldn't put the book down. If you can get past the f*bombs sprinkled all throughout the book, there is a lot of blunt, real advice that can shake you awake. Particularly the principle that you are responsible for everything that happens to you, especially the meaning you attached events and happenings in your life. As I went through this book, it sparked very radical and profound thoughts that made my heart flutter and mind race. If I act on these impressions and thoughts in the near future, my life could take a very unique course for the next year or two.
I recommend this book to anyone that has read other self-help books and found them to be too woo-woo or to ‘light' and not blunt enough to tell it like it is. There really isn't anything new in here you couldn't find in books by other more well-known authors, but the way it's presented with its coarse language is refreshing.
As with any book of this type, it's difficult to rate it immediately after completing it. But this book, regardless of how true the content is, was a very enjoyable and thought-provoking read. The title may invite some type of readers, and fend off others. But I would still recommend this to anyone, as it's both humorous and deep, but preventing one from falling asleep while reading it.
The narrator for the audiobook was great, and the length wasn't intimidating. Easily five stars from me.
My first nonfiction read of the new year and this one did not disappoint. I really liked the topics and points made within this awesome read and one could say no more f*cks could be given after this one was said and done