How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A deeply validating manifesto on the gender politics of marriage (bad) and divorce (actually pretty good!) in America today, and an argument that the former needs a reboot—from journalist and proud divorcée Lyz Lenz “This American Ex-Wife is a bomb, a bouquet (but not a wedding bouquet), a memoir, a manifesto, and a total joy to read.”—Rebecca Solnit, author of Men Explain Things to Me Studies show that nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women—women who are tired, fed up, exhausted, and unhappy. We’ve all seen how the media portrays divorcées: sad, lonely, drowning their sorrows in a bottle of wine. Lyz Lenz is one such woman whose life fell apart after she reached a breaking point in her twelve-year marriage. But she refused to take part in that tired narrative and decided to flip the script on divorce. In this exuberant and unapologetic book, Lenz makes an argument for the advantages of getting divorced, framing it as a practical and effective solution for women to take back the power they are owed. Weaving reportage with sociological research and literature with popular culture along with personal stories of coming together and breaking up, Lenz creates a kaleidoscopic and poignant portrait of American marriage today. She argues that the mechanisms of American power, justice, love, and gender equality remain deeply flawed, and that marriage, like any other cultural institution, is due for a reckoning. A raucous argument for acceptance, solidarity, and collective female refusal, This American Ex-Wife takes readers on a riveting ride—while pointing us all toward a life that is a little more free.
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I was one of the few kids that didn't think about being married. I never contemplated my wedding, and generally couldn't picture myself being with a husband. Even now, it's hard to picture myself being married to anyone, period. And while being married sounds amazing to spend your life with someone, I've had my reservations about it.
Now, after reading this book, I don't think it's completely off the table. It is good to be aware of these problems that modern women are having. It's one of those books that I think everyone even slightly interested in the topic of women's rights should give a try: the writing is fast-paced and interesting with facts and stories I could hardly believe were real–but they are, unfortunately.
The only reason this book has taken me so long to read is because, let's be honest, the subject matter is heavy and it makes the world bleak. I strongly recommend reading this book along with a horror book; for me, at least, it took my mind off of being scared of men haha.
Thx for reading ❤