Ingrid
The book is poorly written, and defers to “go read the Postgres documentation” whenever it gets to any depth. I would extend that advice to just go read the documentation instead of this book.
The authors spends a lot of time claiming to represent diverse perspectives in terms of sexuality and styles of non-monogamy (and patting herself on the back for it), but the book is very heteronormative and amatonormative.
The book really only resents the perspective of heterosexual, previously monogamous couples who have “opened up”. The author goes as far as to say that if you're having relationship issues with your partner (read primary and previously monogamous), the only way to solve them is to drop all your other partners at least temporarily.
This book is great if you're “opening” a monogamous relationship, otherwise it holds little value.
The book can be a bit slow in the first 3 sections, where it largely (and excessively) quotes other work. It makes up for it in the final section, which feels like the thesis of the book, and the author's novel contribution
There are some good essays in here, but they're buried in others that just feel like self congratulatory filler