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Average rating4
There is just no reason this book needed to be this long. The second half was more engrossing than the first, for me. But my goodness, there was a tremendous amount of place setting I could have done without.
If you've followed me for awhile, you've probably noticed how few five star ratings I give out. There are two objectives that have to be met: Did it make me feel ALL the feels? (Usually meaning did it make me scream cry and/or sob uncontrollably to the point where I think about the book the next day and cry?) And will I reread this infinitely? So yeah, it's pretty rarely that a book fits both these conditions. This one fit neither. This novel didn't make me sob and I will probably never reread it. But I'm giving it five stars. Let's dive in.
What I enjoyed:
This is my first Wally Lamb book, but it won't be my last. He's an incredibly gifted writer. To write a 900 page book that kept my attention all the way through is really a talent. To write a book about a character that is SO unforgivingly everything I despise about baby boomers that I didn't hate, frankly, is astounding. (Don't @ me, I'm not sorry.) The protagonist, Dominick, is so real to me. I rooted for him while simultaneously thinking he was the worst. He was a complex and very flawed character, a real person. All the characters were so well written.
This was a HARD read. Reading this wrecked me. I won't be able to read it again. But not in the way that books usually wreck me. It was DIFFICULT to read about the onset and progression and ultimate extremes of Thomas' schizophrenia. And coming from a home where a close family member deals with very untreated mental illness, it hurt. It was so so hard to read the anger and resentment and burden that Dominick felt about caring for Thomas because I've felt it myself. Dude, it was a tough read. But it was tough because it was so real. The writing was just so spot on. The ricocheting between love and hate, ach.
What I didn't enjoy:
Strangely, I thought I would feel more -something- when the big event happened. I'm not sure why. And I can't tell if I am content with that or not. Otherwise, I have no complaints, honestly.
Would I recommend?
Okay, trigger warnings abound. Just to name a few: Domestic abuse, emotional abuse, death, infant death, suicide, violence, rape, paranoia, mental illness. There's so many, I'm sure I've forgotten some. Please do your due diligence and research it if you have triggers. If you like heavy subject matter and realistic fiction, yes. Just yes. If you prefer your fiction to be very fictionalized, no. Definitely no. Happy reading. :)
The honest truth is that I re-read this for the same reason I re-read The Corrections. I'm moving again soon, and these are big, fat books that I figured I'd be better able to relinquish after revisiting.
I was glad to re-read this. I Know This Much Is True is kind of schlocky, in the sense that Lamb clearly wants to deal with All. The. Big. Issues. and enable his readers in experiencing All. The. Big. Feelings. It's also kind of unschlocky, in that I think he succeeds admirably well, despite his intention to do so being clearly evident.
The spoiler alert below isn't related to the end of the novel, but I put it in because it does relate to potentially triggering content.
For example, on a fellowship interview this spring, an interviewer asked me about a novel that had influenced my clinical work. The first thing that popped into my head, nearly a decade after first reading this, was how Lamb created a narrator who rapes another main (and beloved) character, and the rape felt believable, strongly increased both my empathy for and anger (but not disgust) at the narrator, and Lamb's treatment of all of that didn't feel like a gratuitous portrayal of violence against women as a mean to an emotional end. It just felt like the way life really (often tragically) happens. I think about that a lot when working with people who have perpetrated violence instead of (or in addition to) being on the receiving end of it. We need to really understand both the aftermath of sexual violence, and what leads people to commit it in the first place. .
So, I think this is a good novel to read if you feeling like reading something that will likely make you cry, but not likely to make you feel as if you've been manipulated into crying.
Quasi-potboiler where the real villain is toxic masculinity. Like watching someone fall down a flight of stairs in slow motion, only to land on his feet. Unputdownable.
Nine hundred pages with a schizo twin brother, a girlfriend who has a child with her half-brother, a mother with a harelip and a mysterious father, a grandfather who has an arranged marriage to a woman who murdered her first husband by making him eat glass...somehow this has a happy ending.
okay yes i read this to prepare for the upcoming HBO series starring Mark Ruffalo and yes I do see why Ruffalo would be drawn to these mumbley/yelly twins
anyway I knew this opened with the schizophrenic twin chopping his own hand off in a public library, which obviously yikes, but I was not at all prepared for each subsequent chapter to casually reveal some EVEN MORE OFF THE RAILS ACTION and not from the severely mentally ill character, just from like randoms.
(Stefon voice) this book has EVERYTHING, casual gay panic, casual misogyny, monkey fucking, witchcraft, murder, and every single hot button issue of the early 1990s.
I really struggled with Dominick's misogynist narrative voice, especially at the beginning when I wasn't totally sure how intentional it was supposed to be given that he kept pointing out how sexist his friend was. It turns out it was intentional and was addressed within the narrative but honestly I'm just tired of reading books with exhausting narrators. Can't I just read a book narrated by a nice person with chill vibes. please. Anyway it's not Wally Lamb's fault that it's currently 2020 but i do feel like the target audience for this book would be a non-woke man living in the year 1992.
I am interested to see how this becomes an HBO series because it is very grounded in some problematique 1990s issues.
Anyway that said it was compelling and a page turner mostly because I felt like anything could happen at any goddamn time.
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re-read for the podcast, shook that I gave this 3 stars?? I must have read this on the tail of something worse. IDK. Tho it was a page-turner as I stated before...hmm. Ratings are subjective!
https://www.frowl.org/worstbestsellers/episode-157-i-know-this-much-is-true/
Love Wally Lamb. This book is fantastic, each character is so real, you can feel each emotion.