Ratings21
Average rating3.7
Ohhhhhh my. This is a short book, and a quick read, but MAN is it great. It tackles racism, microaggressions, white feminism, coming out, “it's just a phase!”, polyamory, breaking up, trans-exclusive language...and so much more.
The plot revolves around Juliet's summer internship with an author in Portland, Harlowe Brisbane. Many of the chapters begin with an excerpt from Brisbane's fictional treatise on feminism, Raging Flower: Empowering Your Pussy by Empowering Your Mind. One of these excerpts in particular took my breath away:
Read everything you can push into your skull. Read your mother's diary. Read Assata. Read everything Gloria Steinem and bell hooks write. Read all of the poems your friends leave in your locker. Read books about your body written by people who have bodies like yours. Read everything that supports your growth as a vibrant, rebel girl human. Read because you're tired of secrets.
Juliet reminds me a lot of me when I was detaching myself from Christianity and the conservatism I grew up with. Devouring books, learning about historical figures that I should have known about and was stunned that I'd never heard of. So I totally understand her wonder and shock at an entirely new world opening up before her.
Through Harlowe and her primary partner, Maxine, Juliet learns about polyamory. It's a remarkably good example; even though Harlowe and Maxine have their issues, their arguments are reasonably healthy, and despite disagreeing on some topics, they still love each other and say as much.
In Harlowe, we have an example of a white feminist who tries to be intersectional, at least a little, but can still be blind to a lot of her own microaggressions. Maxine, her partner, is a woman of color, as are most of the other characters in the book, so Juliet has lots of opportunities to see how white feminism can be ignorant of issues and blind to its own faults.
As a white feminist myself, I took this portrayal for the warning it is. I do my best to lift up voices of color by reviewing books by and about minorities on this blog as often as I can. I try to be as intersectional as possible, but I know I will make missteps, and I can always be better. But this book, though it's meant for the other side of the equation, is a reminder to feminists like me to keep trying to be better, and the costs to other people when we screw up.
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