Naturally Tan

Tan from South Yorkshire only wanted to retire after a grueling but successful few years of running his fashion labels. He was fraying at the seams from the tremendous pressure, and wanted to spend more time with his husband, maybe start a family. He never planned on being famous, never thought he would go on to being one of the most recognisable and loved faces in the TV-watching world.

When the world saw him on the first episode of the newly-zjooshed Queer Eye was also the first time he had ever been in front of the camera ever, but as we all know, three seasons in and Tan (together with the other four) have gotten their art down to an ... well, art.

Naturally Tan is an easy read and wonderful insight to Tan France's life before Queer Eye and how it changed his life after. He speaks about meeting his husband Rob and the steadfastness of their relationship through his fashion career and TV career, about his own experience of growing up as a gay South Asian kid in England, and how he feels the weight of responsibility of being brown and gay in the very public eye.

As a great fan of Queer Eye myself, anything these guys do are of interest to me and a memoir of Tan's life so far was too good to pass up. I was not disappointed. Tan reveals a lot about the casting process for the show, and how the existing cast already struck up a rapport before any of them were officially cast.

A fun, insightful read and fans, and a great filler while you're waiting for the next season.

ARC courtesy of NetGalley.

I didn't know what the show Queer Eye was about until I saw everyone talking about it on twitter last year and then I decided to binge watch the two seasons ... wow was that an experience. I sobbed in almost every episode and fell in love with the Fab 5 and it's been wonderful getting to know them better since then. It was also very surprising to see a gay South Asian person on such a mainstream popular show and he quickly became my favorite and I've really wanted to know more about Tan. So I was so so excited when I got approved for the advance copy of his memoir and I think it's awesome that I'm able to review this today, the premier of Season 3.

Tan has always come across as the more reserved one among the Fab 5, so I definitely was expecting to get a better read on him through this book and I wasn't let down. His narrative style is witty, sassy and charming and this is a memoir you won't mind finishing in a single sitting. He is also quite self deprecating, pointing out his own flaws and owning them while also being very forthright about some of his own opinions. Peppered among the anecdotes from his life are some of his signature fashion tips and I definitely loved them. Some of his advise felt out of place within the context of the chapters (or the book) sometimes, but I think we can't expect anything different from a designer/stylist.

Despite the lighthearted way he tries to convey his story, there are many things he dealt with which are painful and heartbreaking to read about. Especially the racism that he had to encounter for being one of the few people of color in a small town in England, and how the little things like walking back home from school were a lesson in survival were both unpleasant to read, but unsurprising because I think much has not changed since then in some places. His particular mention that brown people can't run in airports (even when you are late for your flight) just hit me hard because that's so true and unfair. There are many such observations that he makes about what brown people can or can't do and it's painful to realize that we have to keep all this things in mind just to live our lives peacefully. Though I live in the US now, I grew up in India among people who looked like me, so seeing myself represented in media or other aspects of life was never an issue. I realized the importance of it only after moving to a different country, so his issues about representation since childhood felt so much more profound and I think this is such a harsh reality for most of the people of color who live in the west. He is also quite forthcoming about a very painful episode in his life and I commend him for it, because it just goes on to show that just because someone is successful and making money doesn't mean everything is great with their life. He is also pretty frank about the non glossy side of his celebrity life - the incessant travel, innumerable press junkets, being away from his husband and feeling lonely, the toll it takes to keep up appearances in public - while acknowledging how privileged he is.

I was actually surprised by the ease with which he seemed to have handled the fact that he was gay while also being Muslim and South Asian but I think it's a testament to the strength of his convictions. He is also still very traditional in his mindset and that reflects in the relationship with his husband. It feels like a great love story and they seem to be wonderful supportive partners and I loved reading the parts where he kept gushing about his husband. Their first date and subsequent meetings are especially adorable and it really feels like they were meant to be together.

And there are so many things in the book that I found endearing because of the relatability. The conservative nature of the family while growing up, all the nosy family members, the ways we are restricted in terms of dressing up or making friends or going out and how we all learn to lie to do what we want to do - it was so reflective of my own life growing up that I found it very nostalgic. It's also lovely to see him want to incorporate his culture within his style and I think his mehndi is a wonderful statement in that regard. He is also quite open about the rampant colorism in the South Asian community and our obsession with being fair (essentially white) and associating lighter skin with beauty and his journey about realizing the importance of respecting his own skin color felt so similar to mine. There are many such instances in this book where I thought ... “wow this is exactly what happened to me too” ... and that's one of the main reasons I really enjoyed this one.

If you are a fan of the show Queer Eye, you should definitely check this out because you'll love it. It definitely goes along with the theme of the show - finding your own path in life, accepting and understanding yourself and spreading joy around you. Tan's witty writing style makes for a very fun read and you'll definitely find something in this memoir that you can relate to. However, the blurb does mention about him coming out to his family and revealing the truth about his marriage - it is not included in this advance copy but I hope it's a part of the final book. This was a lovely book to read and I definitely recommend to everyone. I promise it'll make you smile.

A funny quick read with a little bit of fashion/life advice. Tan has an innate self-confidence and story that many will find representation in (as a gay Southeast Asian Muslim who has lived in two countries and and created/owned his own businesses) and I think teens would be interested, especially as he talks about the less glamorous side of celebrity.

Summary:
Tan France, from Netflix's Queer Eye, tells his story starting from early child memories to eventually going on and creating his fashion business, to meeting his husband, then eventually being convinced to go through the audition process for a new Netflix show. The audiobook is read by Tan and is absolutely wonderful.

Review:
Absolutely recommend the audiobook for this one. The book is read by Tan France and, therefore, you are able to hear his voice and his personality through the entire process. I loved hearing the stories from behind the scenes of how everything came together. I will be honest, France does have a lot of confidence and opinions on ways of presenting oneself. It can come off a little judgey. For me, some of the issues show some of the toxic beliefs that are held within the gay community–something that France mentions but doesn't expound on much–where gay men are expected to be ripped, have flawless hair, skin, and teeth, and to be knowledgeable and stylish in everything.
I really like what France has to say, for the most part, however, it all just feels exhausting (but this is a personal complaint about the gay community that I have. It is such a small part of the book, but worth mentioning).

I love the feeling of found family and the example of a healthy gay marriage between Tan and Rob France. Tan talks about wanting gay friends, which he was able to find through the other guys of the Fab Five. It does make me sad, since that is something that I have always wanted too–a strong group of gay men who are just friends–but I am unable to find a group in my area.

The book is great. Tan France is great. The book jumps around and it covers a multitude of topics–representation, Tan's life, racism and discrimination after 9/11 and in his childhood, inclusion and media representation, queer love and life, etc.