There's Something About Sweetie

Eating was so fraught when you were fat: If you ate something unhealthy, thin people would say it was no wonder you were fat. But if you ate something healthy, they'd roll their eyes, laugh, and say, “Yeah, right.

This book comes from a good place but ultimately failed to be compelling to me. It falls under “doesn't mean it's good just because it's diverse.”

The whole body positivity element sort of missed the point because the author kept beating a dead horse with how good Sweetie was at running and everything else she did. It's like she was trying to make up for her being fat by making her perfect in every way.

The insta-love was too much for me. Sweetie fell in love on the spot from his sad eyes in a picture and he was smitten instantly despite claiming to having been in love and heartbroken by this other girl, so much that his entire life was imploding, just the night before. Caring about them as a couple was hard because I didn't find it convincing. They were just the main characters and they were meant to fall in love. It was so obvious I was reading a plot device.

Sweetie's abuse by her mother was absolutely heartbreaking to watch and was addressed and sorted out in an unsatisfying manner. I won't stand by this kind of abuse, it should never happen. Love is universal and her mother's behavior was anything but loving (Also looking at Samir's mom here). Considering mental health is a almost universally taboo, I'm not surprised this kind of thing gets brushed off.

Also not a fan of how, when it came to dating, “American” girls (presumably white) were ALWAYS the bad influences, in contrast to Indian-American girls who were always good and pure and everything that's best in the world. It reads Indian = good. Non-Indian=Baaad. Very narrow-minded kind of thinking. It's not a good look to bring down other cultures down just to make yours look good. Are westerners more carefree sexually? Yes. Does this make them horrible human beings? No. People come in all types of personalities and behaviors regardless of culture. There are more tasteful ways in which cultural differences can be brought up. One can be proud of their own culture while accepting that other people were brought up and choose to live differently and they don't deserve to be stigmatized for it.

😍😍😍 4.5 stars, rounding up. The fat acceptance aspects of this were a little 101 for me, but I'm not the target audience here and I'm sure that there are a lot of readers that need to hear that, so it's not a big deal (though I will recommend [b:The Summer of Jordi Pérez 31246717 The Summer of Jordi Pérez (And the Best Burger in Los Ángeles) Amy Spalding https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1523305710l/31246717.SX50.jpg 51900047] as a contemporary YA with a fat heroine that's a little more advanced on that front.) ANYWAY. I love Sweetie and her friends and her complicated relationship with her mother and her Indian heritage. Ashish was a little more frustrating, but he's probably a convincing teenage boy in that respect? Everything Sandhya Menon writes is delightful, but I think this one is my favorite of them all. So far, at least.(2019 summer romance bingo: “prom”; could also count for “title includes character's name.”)

If I thought When Dimple Met Rishi was wonderful, there is no way I could have described how excited I was for this one. While getting a story about Ashish was in itself a draw, my main reason to read this was a fat brown desi heroine. They so so rare in media that I don't even look for this representation, so it was such a pleasant surprise when I first saw the amazing cover of this book. And I'm so glad I finally got around to reading it.

We already know from the first book that Ashish is a cocky jock, and here he is heartbroken after his breakup with Celia. He has always tried to reject his Indianness because he didn't like his parents hovering over him, but finally decides to let go of the resentment and embrace their decisions for a change. This leads to his introduction to Sweetie. She is the top track star of her school, is comfortable in her own body for the most part, but her mother's incessant comments about her weight chip away at her little by little. And she decides to just do something rebellious for once and prove to herself that she is wonderful and desirable just as she is.

I loved all the scenes they were together. The relationship development was very cute, all their “parental approved” dates really sweet and hilarious, and I could see why they really were good together. She helped him embrace his culture a bit more and also be able to show his vulnerability, and he gave her all the respect she deserved and always stood up for her. While this book is definitely a case of instalove, I kind of decided to go with the flow because it's not really that unbelievable for their age.

Just like the previous two books, Sandhya's writing is so pleasing and fun to read that I flew through this one in a matter of hours. I had a huge smile on my face for the most part because of all the cuteness and some hilarious pop culture references. I also liked the way the author manages to make these kids self respecting and strong, wanting to stand up for themselves, without ever disrespecting their parents. I also felt that the desiness of the book was very inherent and organic, it didn't exactly stand out like the author was forcing it but it was just a part and parcel of these characters' lives. My only gripe probably would be that Sweetie was too wise for her sixteen years, and I don't know if teenagers really can give such sage advice all the time.

Obviously the major element of this book is body positivity and I loved how happy Sweetie was being the way she was. She still got hurt or felt bad when someone commented on her body, either intentionally or just due to ignorance, but she never lets it affect her perception of herself. The major conflict obviously comes from her mother's character - she is constantly telling Sweetie to lose weight, saying that she wouldn't be happy if she wasn't thin, going as far as saying that even if she turned out to be both fat and happy, it would be a lucky miracle. These constant comments really hurt Sweetie and me because I have heard so much of this myself (I do even now). Such conversations have been so much a part of my life that for very long, I didn't even realize fat shaming was wrong or that was the reason I kept feeling bad. While it's awesome how Sweetie and the author reiterate the message of accepting our fatness and curves, I don't know if I'm there yet. I try not to let them hurt me much, but acceptance will probably take a while. And that's why this book is so important and I'm so happy it exists. Hopefully more books like these will help me too. And the one thing that stuck with me was that despite the reconciliation that happens at the end, Sweetie's mom never actually apologizes for her fat shaming comments and I would have liked that to happen in a book, because it would probably never happen in real life.

If you liked Sandhya's previous books, then you'll definitely like this one too. It's an adorable and sweet lovely, albeit slightly unrealistic at times, but still very enjoyable. But the reason I want everyone to read this one is for its important messaging, the fat acceptance and general body positivity, because this representation is very much needed and more so for desi readers.