Dear Ijeawele, Or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

Adichie, you did it again.
In a really short book, you explain a plurality of concepts that anyone who wants to raise their children in the best way posible should read.
And it's hard. I won't deny it. Reading some parts of this was hard af. Because realizing some behaviors your parents, your teachers, adults in general implanted on you since you were born are actually really problematic, and detaching from those behaviors, is difficult.
But it is posible, I truly believe from the bottom of my heart, that overcoming patriarchy is posible, even if it means that I'll have to discard and change my behaviors and the misogynist culture I was thrown in without asking.
I'll leave some qoutes that resume what a great book this is:

‘You might think that Chudi will not bathe her exactly as you'd like, that he might not wipe her bum as perfectly as you do. But so what? What is the worst that can happen? She won't die at the hands of her father. Seriously. He loves her. It's good for her to be cared for by her father. So look away, arrest your perfectionism, still your socially conditioned sense of duty. Share child care equally.'‘And please reject the language of help. Chudi is not “helping” you by caring for his child. He is doing what he should.'‘There are people who say “Well, your name is also about patriarchy because it is your father's name.” Indeed. But the point is simply this: Whether it came from my father or from the moon, it is the name that I have had since I was born, the name with which I traveled my life's milestones, the name I have answered to since that first day I went to kindergarten on a hazy morning and my teacher said, “Answer ‘present' if you hear your name. Number one: Adichie!”'‘Never, ever link Chizalum's appearance with morality. Never tell her that a short skirt is “immoral.” Make dressing a question of taste and attractiveness instead of a question of morality. If you clash over what she wants to wear, never say things like “You look like a prostitute,” as I know your mother once told you. Instead, say, “That dress doesn't flatter you like this other one.” Or doesn't fit as well. Or doesn't look as attractive. Or is simply ugly. But never “immoral.” Because clothes have absolutely nothing to do with morality.'