Many Love
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Average rating4.5
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Ratings2
Average rating4.5
"Sophie Lucido Johnson gets a lot of questions when she tells people that she's polyamorous. Many Love is an intimate look at this often misunderstood practice: its history, its misconceptions, and Sophie's personal transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist. After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents' forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less traveled. In this bold, illustrated memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it's like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter--and surmount--many types of jealousy, learn the power of female friendship, and other amazing things that happened when she stopped looking for "the one." In a lot of ways, Many Love is Sophie's love letter to everyone she has ever cared for. Witty, insightful, and complete with illustrations, this debut provides a memorable glimpse into an unconventional life"--
"In this bold, illustrated memoir, a young woman shares both a personal and sociological take on modern, "unconventional" love, exploring her own transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist"--
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I always pick up new polyamory books, and this one is excellent. Sophie simply tells the story of her love life, from falling in love with other boys while dating someone as a teen, to consciously deciding to date another couple, as a couple, in her adulthood. She doesn't pretend it was all roses, though. She hurt people unintentionally when she was younger, and struggled with jealousy in a number of different ways.
I liked that she was so real. She didn't shy away from talking about her heartbreaks, and the situations she found herself in sound all too likely. I also really liked the illustrations. The cover is a good indication of the style within - almost comic-book like. Rather than going with the story, the illustrations are part OF the story - she asks her boyfriend a question, his answer is in the illustration, and then the story continues in text. There's a chart of types of jealousy, drawn in the illustration style rather than perfect text boxes. Then you get owls asking each other “Whooooo is your favorite?” It gives the book almost a playful feel.
One thing I really liked is how she talked about friendships and polyamory. In a typical monogamous marriage, (not all!) there are rules about cheating. If you cuddle another person, or spend the night with them, that's probably cheating, even if it's platonic. In polyamory, though, there's a lot more leeway for how relationships can look. Sophie, for a good portion of the book, lives with a couple who are her best friends. She climbs into bed with them for comfort. They have dinner together, and tell each other “I love you.” I really love that she talks about friendships in the context of polyamory; I don't think that gets discussed often enough. I feel like being polyamorous lets friendships evolve as they will, instead of being constrained by your romantic relationships. If I have a friend who I like to cuddle up on the couch with and watch movies, my husband sees nothing wrong with that.
I plan to buy this book to add to my polyamory shelf. If you're polyamorous or curious about the relationship style, I highly recommend this book. She also has chapter notes, a bibliography, and an index in the back of the book, so it's stuffed full of other resources, too.
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