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Average rating3.8
> The guide of choice for people curious to move beyond conventional monogamy, and for anyone interested in learning better skills for love, sex, and intimacy, *The Ethical Slut* will open you up to the adventure and freedom that comes from redefining the way you relate to the adventure and freedom that comes from redefining the way you relate to friends and lovers. Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton offer the techniques, skills, and ideals they have developed for practicing successful and ethical polyamory through open communication, emotional honest, and managing jealousy. This updated and expanded edition includes more than fifteen practical exercises, new topics such as consent and overcoming sexual shame, tributes to poly pioneers, and interviews with contemporary sluts who are making this way of loving a reality. Whether you're a card-carrying slut or just testing the waters, you'll learn how to find your desires and discover romance and friendship beyond your dreams. — Back cover of the 3rd edition
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Stars for helping me find a path I could walk and be happy on. Reading it now, the focus on sex gets kinda boring, but I know that at the time it was so very important to stress that sex is fun and good for you.
Don't be fooled by the title or sub-title. While this book does focus on polyamory, open relationships and more it mostly works on the bases of having a a healthy relationship with communication, honesty, sex, and working out underlining problems like outside influence that could be breaking down your relationship's or your own happiness. This isn't trying to force you into an open relationship lifestyle but if you have an unmovable idea of what relationships or people should be don't read this book.
This book is written with a good sense of humor and doesn't read like a psych textbook or thesis paper.
Informative and inclusive, but full of hippie-era concepts. glad to have read it, could've been structured better.
A really interesting book that is broader than it is deep and has value for most folks, not just those curious about nonmonogamy. (Although I agree it gets pretty dorky at times and could've been a lot shorter.) Plenty of good writing on boundaries, owning your own emotions, dealing with insecurity or jealousy, building networks and community, and embracing a sense of abundance when it comes to love and intimacy in all relationships. Even in the 2017 edition, parts of this seem dated when it comes to discussions of gender and sexuality. But it is not for nothing that the authors have decades of combined experience building polyamorous lives and networks.