The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
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Introduces the theory of adult attachment as an advanced relationship science that can enable individuals to find and sustain love, offering insight into the roles of genetics and early family life in how people approach relationships.
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This is mainly a self help dating book with only a bit of attachment theory sprinkled in. Was hoping for more theory and explanation on how these attachment styles develop. Lots of examples/cases but they seemed reductive and simplistic at times.
A friend recommended this to me, and I found it very helpful. It's probably not the last word on the subject, but it's a great overview of romantic attachment theory. A few friends have talked to me about the basics of the theory over the past few years, but it was good to finally read the book. I feel much better-equipped now to understand my own way of relating to others, and also to not assume fault when interacting with people who may not be capable of developing intimacy. Anyway - would definitely recommend to all singles out there, lol
While there is a lot to say about Bowlby's attachment theory, the information given in this book is really high level and could be summarised in less than 50 pages - the other 250 pages are filled with really simplistic examples and advice that, if anything, would do more harm than good if taken too literally.
Not my type of book and a pretty disappointing read.