I'm Afraid of Men

There can be things to gain from reading something like this but I'm always left unsettled at the stark level of posturing from trans woman. They truly believe in their minds that they are the minority and their levels of pain outweigh woman's when their issues don't derive directly from misogyny, as they weren't born as a woman in this world. They can still if they ever desired take off the makeup and clothes and go back to being a man and enjoy male privilege. It just makes feminism a joke that it's woman bearing the brunt of having to accept men as woman, and having to accept them into our limited spaces and have to adjust our limited gendered vocabulary (in reference to woman anatomy) to as not “offend” them. They can't be criticized otherwise you're just a “terf”

Vivek is very much on the defensive with this novel and tried to articulate the feelings of isolation and pain but the title alone and the topics covered just make me want to scoff in the audacity of it all. I use to not question things, I use to not object but as I've gotten older and realized just how much everything affects woman and I don't do that anymore. Sorry not sorry.

“Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in which I have been victimized and violated?”

I'm Afraid of Men was such a great and thoughtful read that helped shine a light on topics surrounding gender, identity and trauma. I thought it was extremely powerful how the author focused on her own experiences, which are some that sadly many people share as well.

This was a fast, informative read that I think everyone should pick up.

eh....there are important topics here but i dont know it wasnt what i was expecting i guess...? good points are made but then kind of flubbed around with and i dont know how i feel about the ending of this... to make the point that underneath it all everything you've experienced in life comes down to misogyny only to end with how afraid of women you are just feels...

OWN VOICES/COUNTER NARRATIVES ARE SO IMPORTANT!

“What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me—and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations and restrictions? What if you cherished us as archetypes of realized potential? What if you were to surrender to sublime possibility— yours and mine? Might you then free me at last of my fear, and of your own?” pg. 85